Finding mentorship without a mentor

One thing I struggled with during my career is a lack of mentorship. I learned how to take kernels of wisdom from a variety of sources, mash them all together to replace a formal mentor. I think it’s a useful skill that’s worth sharing.

There were several years when I was operating as a freelancer trying to make choices in a vacuum. Sure, I had my clients who were there to vet product decisions. And occasionally a fellow contractor who could point out more effective practices. And sure, I had friends who I could ask about an odd conversation. All of it put together ended up being enough for me to power through.

What was missing was someone who had visibility into my life, my goals and my opportunities both seen and unseen. I was missing a person who was looking out for me.

I doubt I’m the only person to have felt like that.

These are three main aspects of mentorship that I’ve been interested in:

• Career guidance: Everything on the professional side of your journey.
• Technical review: The things that help you be better software engineering.
• Communication support: How to manage social dynamics and being a human in the software domain.

I’ve started on the career section first. It contains several sections that help you evaluate guidance from friends and family, colleagues, and content. Plus, when to rely on each.

Give it all a read and let me know what you think! Finding mentorship without a mentor is absolutely possible, and I hope this helps you do it. That said, there’s no substitute for someone who knows you, is genuinely in your corner, and understands our industry. If that’s something you’re looking for, I’d love to talk.